The Good Girl vs. The Bad Girl
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The Dilemma
Oh you know who she is. She’s the bad girl. She might not be essentially bad but you just can’t stop thinking about her, and for all the wrong reasons. She’s the girl that appears in every dream, every fantasy, haunting you like the devil on your shoulder. She’s the bad girl. As we get older and take steps to appeal to the ladies some of us will be lucky enough to get a chance with this foxy modern day temptress. But there are always consequences to consider. This is the type of girl who you know can lead to your moral corruption, not to mention STD’s, a distorted view of relationships and God forbid, a pregnancy.
But there is always that angel on your shoulder too. Not nagging you about what you should be doing but the other option, the good girl. She’s cute, only dated a few guys, always flirty but innocent at the same time. She’s the girl that you see yourself in a long, happy, fulfilling, relationship. But you’re happy to date this girl because of how cute and fun she is, in the most wholesome way. She keeps your bad side in check and you really feel like you made the right call going for her. She completes you, but you’re not sure if you’re ready for that kind of commitment in high school.Were teenagers though, let’s face it. Our hormones are raging and our brains are developing causing an internal conflict so violent that it could rival World War II. None of the decisions we make are easy, but choosing between these two girls is one of the hardest things that we have to do.
Now we’ve always been told to consider the consequences of our actions. We’re approaching an age that our actions really can affect our futures though. The good girl you date could be your high school sweetheart that you end up marrying. The bad girl that you make your mistakes with could be the girl that you get pregnant. Very few of us will fall victim to either of these extremes, but its good to keep the long term in mind. Now let’s examine the short term.
The immediate response to the question of which girl to date comes from in our pants, not our head or our heart. The bad girl arouses us in the worst way, pushing judgment and feelings out the door. We don’t see her personality, we merely see the curves. Although parents and religious leaders might disagree with me I feel a round with the bad girl is not always a bad thing. Not that entering a relationship under sexual motives is a good thing, but our teenage years are a time for personal exploration. Getting a little experience under your belt, not to mention below hers, is not necessarily a bad thing if you’re careful not to get in over your head and not pressuring her into something she’s not ready for. Dating this girl might answer some of the curiosities that we guys have had since puberty first started wreaking havoc with our bodies and minds, and it might only take one girl to satisfy the teenage guy’s innate desire to have a steamy, kinky relationship with a hot girl in high school. These experiences give us answers and maybe even the confidence we need to win over the girl were really meant to be with. The danger lies in obsession or addiction. The bad girl awakens the worst part of us, and in the best situation she keeps us in check before we can go too crazy and get in over our heads. This inspires meaningless, emotionless relationships as we let our deep side go and let our hormones take control. The opposite end of the spectrum is just as bad. A girl who is too eager to explore the physical aspect of a relationship too early can lead to a distorted opinion of how a relationship functions and pervert your opinions, causing future difficulty maintaining a relationship without the physical part and fostering emotionless, meaningless relationships. If its any consolation to those who brave the high road and ask out the good girl, reality will never be as good as the fantasy you have in your head.
And then there’s the good girl. She’s so cute, so innocent, so new at this whole dating thing that you can’t even be sure she likes you at first. A relationship with her brings a sense of fulfillment as she truly appreciates you for who you are. You can have a conversation with her about nothing at all but talk for hours all the same. We all have this girl in our lives, maybe she is your neighbor, or your best friend, or even just a girl you met in class. She gets you for who you are, even though you’re still figuring that out for yourself. The attraction to dating this girl is how truly happy she has the potential to make you, on a level deeper than physical or social satisfaction. Yes social, honestly long term couples are boring, it’s the bad girls who cause the most drama and more often than not are the potential link to a cooler group of friends. But this is the type of fulfillment you expect from a wife, and don’t necessarily expect from a girl in high school. Your not sure if that’s what you want, or really need right now though. The biggest concern any guy can have going into a relationship with the good girl is what experiences he might be missing out on with the bad girl. Not that you would want anything with anyone other than the good girl, but your worried about what the other fish in the sea have to offer, what kind of naughty fun you might be missing out on because of your commitment to the good girl. The bad girl who is the one who drinks, parties, and does just about everything that’s bad for your body but feels right. What the good girl offers though is so much more fulfilling, so much more wholesome, and really just better for you as you develop in your teenage years. But maybe you want to make some mistakes, just for the thrill of it…
I definitively say that one is better than the other. Every situation is different, every guy is different, and every girl is different. No girl perfectly fits either extreme. And no extreme is right for any guy. Just make sure to consider the positives with the negatives, and keep you long term happiness in mind. Just realize that true happiness will almost always mean the good girl, but a lot of use just have that bad girl standing in the way. Good luck
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